I know I've been put into the friend zone by several potential love interests, and I'm totally okay with that. At least there's something redeeming about me that puts me in at least the friend category. Well, I hope.
How dreaded is this friend zone to most people, though? I mean, I go with the flow and am generally okay with it. I can understand my shortcomings. But when it comes down to it, how do normal people react to going from potential mates to being just friends (and not friends with benefits, either)?
I just went on a date (I guess) with a guy I met on eHarmony (ugh, I know...we'll get to that another time) a month or so ago. We met up for coffee one day and he expressed his attraction to me after we parted ways through text. I didn't really find him physically attractive, but he was genuinely a nice person and a hard worker...things I generally like in a person. But there was no real chemistry (thanks, eHarmony). I need to feel that "click" and it just wasn't there. I agreed to go out with him again tonight. We both just had our birthdays and thought it would be nice to go out for dinner and a movie and hang out. And don't get me wrong, I had a good time, but the click wasn't there and as the night wore on, I found a few things annoying. I probably wouldn't find them annoying as a friend, people do and say random things, but as a potential partner...this guy would kill me slowly from the inside out.
Herein lies the friend zone. I probably wouldn't mind hanging out with him as a friend, nothing more, but I know that he would probably want something more. I don't want to lead the poor guy on, but how does someone get into the friend zone without it being awkward? I can only imagine that it would be awkward no matter what.
Why is dating so damn difficult?!?
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